There's no waiting-period on a good friendship - if talking to him would help you feel better, and you already get along with him well enough that you'd consider him for such a personal conversation, then go for it! You don't have to qualify it, other than just saying "I feel safe talking to you" and making sure he's… » 8/13/14 1:51pm 8/13/14 1:51pm

You do realise that at $74/hr, your "neighbour's sister" would have needed to work 231 hours last month for a $17165 check, right? That's an 11.5 hour work day, Monday-Friday, or 7.5 hours per day, every day (including weekends). » 8/11/14 2:31pm 8/11/14 2:31pm

Not unless there's an indication he thinks her sex is the determining factor here - some people do change others, it just happens sometimes. Pointing it out isn't sexist or discriminatory, just an observation that may or may not be true. » 8/11/14 12:09pm 8/11/14 12:09pm